3-2-1: On the reactions that shape their future
Your child’s behavior isn’t a test of your authority; it’s a request for guidance. How you react doesn’t just teach them—it defines your bond. One parenting habit makes all the difference.
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Hope you're having a great week. Here’s your weekly dose of parenting wisdom: 3-2-1, here we go...
THREE IDEAS FROM ME
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Your child’s biggest meltdowns often happen with you because they feel safest with you. While it’s exhausting in the moment, it’s also proof of their deep trust.
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A child’s misbehavior is often a signal, not a challenge. The more we tune into their emotions and the purpose behind their actions, the less they’ll need to act out to be heard. Every emotional outburst is an opportunity to teach your child that emotions can be handled, not feared.
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Emotional safety is built over time in everyday moments. Each reaction you have—big or small—shapes your connection. Punishment may stop a behavior today, but only connection changes it for good.
TWO QUOTES FROM OTHERS
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Physician Dr. Gabor Maté on the importance of emotional connection:
“A child’s need for emotional connection is as vital as food and water. When we attune to their feelings, we nourish their sense of worth and security.”
Source: Hold On to Your Kids (2019)
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Educator and actress Janet Lansbury on prioritizing connection:
"Attunement is the art of seeing beyond behavior and into the heart of a child. Connection transforms what correction never can."
Source: Elevating Child Care (2014)
ONE QUESTION FOR YOU
Are you happy with how you responded to your child’s behavior this week, and how will you respond to their behavior next week?
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Until next week,
Mark Snape
Editor of 3-2-1 Parenting Newsletter
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